Book Review: We Are Not Alone by Kristin Lamb

We Are Not Alone by Kristin Lamb

Goodreads Description:

Forward written by NY Times Best-Selling Author and Co-Creator of Who Dares Wins Publishing Bob Mayer “I wished there had been a step-by-step guide for writers on how to not only do it technically, but do it content-wise. This book is the answer to that wish.” Social Media is more popular than ever. As society becomes more and more technologically advanced, people are seeking new ways to interact. Humans are social creatures. Relationships and community are vital to our survival and our mental and emotional health. Writers, published and unpublished, fiction and non-fiction are hearing words like platform and brand with increasing frequency as the publishing paradigm shifts into the 21st century. The world around us is changing faster than ever, and publishing is certainly not immune. There are more opportunities for a new author today than there has been in the entirety of human history. Yet, the flip side of that reality is, with thousands and thousands of authors with books and blogs, how can a writer ever hope to stand apart let alone succeed? This book will show you how. There are countless social media experts, but Kristen’s system is specifically designed to meet the unique needs of a writer. Take charge of your future today. You have great books to write, and don’t have time for rookie mistakes that can cost you years of rebuilding your name, brand, and platform. Kristen’s method is simple, effective, and helps you harness that same creativity you apply to your writing and harness it to build you social media platform. Best part is you don’t even have to be a computer expert or know anything about sales. This system is designed to change the writer’s approach, not the writer’s personality. And the best part is you have help. Remember, We Are Not Alone.

My Review:

I read this book shortly after I started blogging in March of this year. The most valuable advice that I gleaned from it was the importance of branding your own name. If you’re a writer, don’t use a moniker for your social media platforms. Readers will have difficulty finding your book if the author name is rarely mentioned. She also advised that authors avoid using the title of their book as their name/identifier in social media platforms unless they plan to write just that one book. And what if you change the title of your book before publishing? She recommends that you use your name or the name you will be writing under for all social media platforms.

This was eye opening for me. When I started my blog, I wasn’t sure what name to use. I remember coming across all these creative social media monikers, but I couldn’t come up with one that I thought I’d want to stick with permanently, so I just used my name. By sheer dumb luck, I did exactly as the author recommends. Well, it’s more than a recommendation. To her, it’s a must.

“…it is absolutely crucial for you to brand your name over and over and over and it is always associated with your content, that is like a non-stop commercial pitching your work every single day. This is why a moniker can absolutely KILL your platform.

When you use anything other than the name that will be printed across your book, you give up your most valuable marketing real estate…the top of mind.”

The book is a bit dated, but considering it covers the ever-changing world of social media and was published in 2010, that’s not surprising. Still, it contains useful information for those who are new to social media and with the author’s sense of humor mixed in, it’s a very enjoyable read.

4 out of 5 stars

Kristin has recently released an updated book titled Rise of the Machines: Human Authors in a Digital World. It’s been getting rave reviews and is on my TBR list.


Word of the Day: oubliette

ou·bli·ette noun \ˌü-blē-ˈet\:  a dungeon with an opening only at the top


French, from Middle French, from oublier to forget, from Old French oblier, from Vulgar Latin *oblitare, frequentative of Latin oblivisci to forget  — more at oblivion

First Known Use: 1819

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Conversations with My Kids: Smarties

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Last Halloween, my daughter (seven at the time) was going through her candy deciding which pieces to keep or give away. She came across a package of Smarties and studied the wrapper. Like most kids her age, she is filled with questions about everything. She popped a few in her mouth and then asked the following question.

CJ: Momma, why do they call this candy “Smarties?”

Me: [kidding] Because they make you smart.

CJ: [swallows the Smarties she was chewing and smirks]: Well then how come I didn’t know that?


Word of the Day: anathema

anath·e·ma noun \ə-ˈna-thə-mə\: someone or something that is very strongly disliked

Full Definition of ANATHEMA

a:  one that is cursed by ecclesiastical authority

b:  someone or something intensely disliked or loathed —usually used as a predicate nominative <this notion was anathema to most of his countrymen  — S. J. Gould>

a:  a ban or curse solemnly pronounced by ecclesiastical authority and accompanied by excommunication

b:  the denunciation of something as accursed

c:  a vigorous denunciation :  curse

Origin of ANATHEMA

Late Latin anathemat-, anathema, from Greek, thing devoted to evil, curse, from anatithenai to set up, dedicate, from ana- + tithenai to place, set

First Known Use: 1526

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Word of the Day: solipsism

so·lip·sism noun \ˈsō-ləp-ˌsi-zəm, ˈsä-\ : a theory in philosophy that your own existence is the only thing that is real or that can be known

 Full Definition of SOLIPSISM

:  a theory holding that the self can know nothing but its own modifications and that the self is the only existent thing; also:  extreme egocentrism

so·lip·sist\ˈsō-ləp-sist, ˈsä-ləp-, sə-ˈlip-\noun

so·lip·sis·tic\ˌsō-ləp-ˈsis-tik, ˌsä-\adjective


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Musical Monday: Thriller by Michael Jackson

I can’t post Musical Mondays for October without including Thriller by Michael Jackson. It was released as a world première music video on MTV in 1983, and according to Wikipedia, it is the most viewed music video of all time.

I remember seeing it for the first time when I was in high school (yes, I’m old). Whenever it appeared on MTV my friend Stacie would call me and exclaim, “Thriller’s on!” This was before internet and YouTube. You couldn’t “google” it and watch it at your leisure, so when it came on TV, it was a big deal.

Stacie was on the school dance team, so of course she learned all the moves and would perform it regularly. She’d probably kill me for telling you that, but she doesn’t know I have this blog. Heh. Heh.

Anyway, who doesn’t know that dance? It’s been performed by prison inmates in the Philippines and Singapore, at wedding receptions, and countless other events. It’s been thirty years (I feel really old now) since the song debuted and my daughter recently learned a modified version of it in her hip-hop class.

Here is the original video that debuted on MTV.

Word of the Day: vainglorious

vain·glo·ri·ous adjective \ˌvān-ˈglȯr-ē-əs\: having or showing too much pride in your abilities or achievements

Full Definition of VAINGLORIOUS

:  marked by vainglory :  boastful

vain·glo·ri·ous·ly adverb

vain·glo·ri·ous·ness noun

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Word of the Day: noxious

nox·ious adjective \ˈnäk-shəs\: harmful to living things

 Full Definition of NOXIOUS

1a:  physically harmful or destructive to living beings <noxious waste>

b:  constituting a harmful influence on mind or behavior; especially:  morally corrupting <noxious doctrines>

nox·ious·ly adverb
nox·ious·ness noun
Examples of NOXIOUS

  1. <mixing bleach and ammonia can cause noxious fumes that can seriously harm you>
  2. <noxious smog that for years has been encrusting the historic cathedral with soot>

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Word of the Day: degenerate

de·gen·er·ate adjective \di-ˈjen-rət, -ˈje-nə-, dē-\: having low moral standards : not honest, proper, or good

Full Definition of DEGENERATE
a:  having declined or become less specialized (as in nature, character, structure, or function) from an ancestral or former state

b:  having sunk to a condition below that which is normal to a type; especially:  having sunk to a lower and usually corrupt and vicious state

c:  degraded

2:  being mathematically simpler (as by having a factor or constant equal to zero) than the typical case degenerate hyperbola>
3:  characterized by atoms stripped of their electrons and by very great density <degenerate matter>; also:  consisting of degenerate matter <a degenerate star>
4:  having two or more states or subdivisions <degenerate energy level>
5:  having more than one codon representing an amino acid; also:  being such a codon
Examples of DEGENERATE

  1. He criticizes what he believes is a degenerate society.
  2. <a degenerate society in which people had no sense of being citizens, only consumers>


Middle English degenerat, from Latin degeneratus, past participle of degenerare to degenerate, from de- + gener-, genus race, kind  — more at kin

First Known Use: 15th century

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Word of the Day: iniquitous

in·iq·ui·tous adjective \i-ˈni-kwə-təs\: very unfair or evil

 Full Definition of INIQUITOUS
:  characterized by iniquity
Examples of INIQUITOUS

  1. <zero tolerance at the academy for cheating and other iniquitous practices>

First Known Use of INIQUITOUS



black, dark, evil, immoral, bad, nefarious, rotten, sinful, unethical, unlawful, unrighteous, unsavory, vicious, vile, villainous, wicked, wrong
decent, ethical, good, honest, honorable, just, moral, right, righteous, sublime, upright, virtuous

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